Conflict: verb, to come into collision or disagreement. I am often conflicted.

Before delving into the conflict, it’s important for you to know that little things make me happy. Seeing Dave Matthews live makes me happy.

**sigh** dave

**sigh** dave

Giving a really cool gift and supporting an amazing blogger makes me happy.

read this woman's blog!

read this woman’s blog!

A beautiful single red rose makes me happy.

another **sigh**

another **sigh**

Simple foods, like baked chicken thighs, snow peas & orange peppers with garlic and ginger make me happy.

Snow Peas

Coconut Oil & Kosher Salt makes me happy. Necessary

My new foam bathmat, the way I spring off with every step, the way it absorbs the teensy bit of water dripping off me when I get out of the shower every day, makes me happy.


Bringing a flask of bourbon to a movie makes me happy. Bourbon

Going to a movie by myself makes me happy.

And there are many, many more. But I’ve been noticing lately that movies (and definitely television) are not making me happy. They are making me conflicted. I appreciate what goes into making a film, being in the public eye, having a vision, being creative. However,

I went to see “Lincoln” last night at the Ritz. I have long been an admirer of President Lincoln. I am in fact, very slowly, reading “Team of Rivals” based on Neeners’ husband’s recommendation. And as date night progressed I was excited at the potential of this movie. Maybe it’s like most things in life. Sometimes when I think about my expectations of a situation, the result winds up being ridiculously far from my expectations (on both ends of the spectrum). How do you stop having expectations? Should we stop? Or is it my perfectionism stepping in…

“Lincoln” was good. Casting and make-up should win something for Daniel Day-Lewis’s transformation to the 16th president. Although, since I’m being honest, he could have been made to look a bit older. I can absolutely see why Sally Fields was the choice for Mary Todd, but there was a stark age difference between the two in the film.

And so, for the last 24 hours, I have only had questions? That, alas, will not be answered. Why did they name the movie Lincoln? I’ll admit I did not watch the trailer. If I had I would have known that the movie was set solely in 1865 and focused on the passing of the 13th amendment. But I have to ask again, if that’s what the movie is about, why did you name it Lincoln?

And, where are the black people? There was not a single African-American actor in a leading role. Do you mean to tell me that the only reason America abolished slavery was because of the white man’s politics? I wasn’t alive in the 19th century, but I’m pretty certain that was not the case. What about his friendship with Frederick Douglass? Frederick Douglass who said, “In his company I was never in any way reminded of my humble origin, or of my unpopular colour.”

What about all the other stuff Lincoln did to help the United States of America become what it is today? Such as… Publically speaking out against the 1846-47 Mexican-American war with its profound amount of American lives lost and financial burden. The man who said about this war: “Let us put a check upon this lust of dominion.” Opposing  the pro-slavery Kansas-Nebraska Act in 1854. The man who said the Act, “declared indifference, but as I must think, a covert real zeal for the spread of slavery. I cannot but hate it. I hate it because of the monstrous injustice of slavery itself. I hate it because it deprives our republican example of its just influence in the world…” Barring habeas corpus in 1861 and arresting suspected secessionists without a trial.

And so I am back to…Why did you name the film Lincoln? My humble opinion is that you shouldn’t have.


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